 You
can raise resilient children
Article published in the Bennington Banner
Friday, November 28, 2003
This week, November 24-28, is National
Family Week. The Alliance for Children and Families recognizes
that strong families are
at the center of strong communities. And they state, "Children
live better lives when their family is strong."
But what strategies does a strong family use to help their children
achieve success in life? The Devereux Foundation out of Villanova,
Pennsylvania states children need "protective factors" to
develop resilience to cope with stress. The three factors they
hi-light are attachment, self-control and initiative.
Some family strategies to build these "resilient" children
include:
* Read with your child daily
* Help your child recognize and learn acceptable ways to express
a range of feelings
* Teach your child about your family and culture
* Enjoy doing things in your child's company
* Accept your child as a unique person
* Encourage your child to be both independent and cooperative
* Use positive strategies to guide your child's behavior
These strategies seem pretty straight-forward until the last.
Positive strategies means guide your child before problems (let
them jump on the old cushion instead of the couch or bed); put
away favorite toys when friends come over (so they don't have to
share if they're not ready); explain what to do instead of saying "don't,
don't, don't;" calm down first when angry and then respond
to your child; and teach problem solving skills (talk out a problem
and some possible solutions).
Well, it sounds easy but parenting is usually difficult. Do your
best and be a strong family. Build on your strategies day after
day. Our community will be stronger for your strong family. Celebrate
National Family Week.
Carol Barbierri is the director of Arlington Area Childcare
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